Friday, April 9, 2010


As a celebration of getting through this first year of my separation I organized what I called a “liberty dinner”. Sort of on the same line as a “divorce party” that is gaining popularity these days. It was a chance for me to reclaim myself and to show my friends that life is good and I am doing well. I truly love my life and am happier now than I have ever been. Being a mother is one of the greatest joys of my life and making that decision a year ago that the life we were living wasn’t healthy was one of the best decisions I have ever made for myself and my children. As crazy as the day-to-day is right now, it is much better than before because now there is peace in our life. I think it’s difficult for some people to see past the image of the perfect family. What is a perfect family? Would my children have been happier if mom and dad were in the same house but not acting and loving each other as a family? I think it’s a difficult question to answer. I don’t know the perfect right answer and it’s probably quite different from one family to another but I do feel confident that, for my children and myself, this was the right move- and I felt the need to celebrate this moment. Now, at the same time, I feel it’s important to mention that this was purely my celebration. As much as I feel better to have marked this moment in our life- I would never involve my children in the celebration. They love their father, as they should, and now when it’s ‘daddy-time’, it’s quality ‘daddy-time’ and that is also a reason to celebrate.

1 comment:

  1. Hi,

    I am glad that you are able to move on and see the light at the end of the tunnel. Most important, I know so many divorced parents who try to "talk" their children against the spouse but you clearly understand that children need both their parents' love and time.

    I meant to write earlier as I found your blog recently and wrote a blog entry on my business blog about you and your blog. I invited my customers to visit your site. My blog entry can be found at:

    Have a good weekend,

    Nathalie Roths
    Art Director / Directrice artistique
    Notes and Photos / Photo-cartes